Here's the short before I get into the long. KJ and I have different taste in things. In general I'm wayyyy artsy-fartsy and he's more sensible. So when it comes to fashion we don't always see eye to eye. His fashion or mine. I have long since stopped trying to buy him clothing. Unless it is something specific that he's picked out or just a plain polo shirt to replace another one for work then I generally don't even bother. On the flip side, KJ can generally pick out an entire outfit for me and I'll love it. This is why: 1)He does have good taste, but it's a very narrow vision overall and 2) I'm easier to please and fashion wise I'm up for variety. He on the other hand is not.
So here's what's up for discussion. Tell me what you think.
I'm cleaning out my closet this weekend and there are a few shirts that I have that KJ HATES. They're not hootchie shirts or anything, but they're very artsy. For ex, one is pink striped with strategically placed bleach marks around the graphic design. I love the shirt, KJ not so much. So I started thinking, I only wear the shirt when either I'm visiting with friends or when I won't be seeing KJ (if I'm out of town or something) b/c I just hate to hear the "Why do you like that shirt so much" comment coming. So then I have a mental debate with myself about dressing to please me and dressing to please my husband. In theory, every single moment of everyday, I would like for him to look at me and love EVERY aspect of my very being. Sidebar: this is just about the clothes, I promise that we're not superficial and that our love is based on more than either of our wardrobes or outward appearances. But humor me and follow my twisted train of thought...
Anyway, if I wear something that is unflattering to him, then who am I trying to appease. Simple answer... myself. Some clothes just make me feel good. I have a t-shirt that I got from Goodwill in AU that says Auburn High HAS Athletics. It cracks me UP (just ask Liz, it's a running joke that whenever I wear it I'll look at her and say Get IT?! Get it?! and most times she just shakes her head). It makes me feel good.
Now this wouldn't even be up for discussion if the following situation had not occurred: KJ and I were talking about cologne and I mentioned how I didn't like the smell of something and he said that he wouldn't wear it then b/c who else would he be trying to smell good for. This is kind of the same thing right?? Or at least along the same lines, right?
Anywho, just food for thought. And to throw a wrench in it all, I own a lot of perfume that KJ doesn't like the smell of (some he calls old lady scents). I love perfume and all different kinds of scents, but by the time I get home it's all worn off so that's not really the same issue as clothing... okay I'm just rambling now.
So plain and simple: do you rock and outfit that your significant other can't stand?
Happy Thursday peps!
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Yep! There aren't that many that Kevin just doesn't like, however, there are a few. I don't wear them when I know that we are going to be doing something for him or of his choice (ie: dinner with his fam or his police buddies), but I do wear them in his presence. I say rock it...
I say endure the compromise at times. I guess we all go through the same ordeals with our mates. There will always be something that they don't like us wearing, which is no different from them hogging the good televison and kicking up their feet to watch sports ALL day when allwe want is 30 min to watch our favorite sitcome. However, we all strive to be that woman that our man just craves day in and out. Adisa rarely likes the shoes I pick out. The quick fix: he buys majority of my shoes (which I always seem to like too). Girl, I completely understand. But I agree with Lauren, just don't wear those things he doesn't like when you guys go to a planned function. Grocery store, yes; picnic, day at the beach, no.
I say wear it when you want to. And I don't think it's the same as cologne, cologne is worn everyday and kind of becomes something that describes you, you know if catch a whiff of the same scent in a crowd it remdinds you of him. Clothes are a one day deal.
The only thing I can compare it to is wearing granny panties while I was pregnant. John hated them, made fun of me everytime he saw them (even in the wash) and I'm sure would have preferred something a little less.... granny.
Also, you put up with playstation, he can put up with a shirt. It's already a tradeoff.
...yeah, Playstation is a year round ordeal. LOL!!!
Well in my opinion you should be comfortable and wear what you want to wear. Besides the clothes don't make the person the person makes the clothes. So if he doesn't like some of your shirts, here's a suggestion, he can take you on a shopping spree when you throw away (or donate to goodwill) what he doesn't like. Or whenever he cranks up the playstation lay one of the shirts over the television.
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